List of things you want in a guy
Last Thursday I picked my 5-year-old up from kindergarten and she informed me that she has a boyfriend. Evidently, when you are 5 small details like names are not important when it comes to relationships. As adults, some of us continue to struggle with knowing what is important in a significant other. I certainly did. Like so many young adults, I chased the experience of dating, grew addicted to the highs and lows of dysfunctional relationships, and suffered through bringing these bad habits into my marriage. Monica and I seem to be an exception, as so many with similar stories have very different endings.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: 5 Compliments That Will Make A Guy INSTANTLY Fall For You
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- 57 Things Every Man Should Own And Have In His Life
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- 10 of the Most Important Qualities Women Look for in a Guy
57 Things Every Man Should Own And Have In His Life
This post may contain affiliate links. Please read my disclosure policy. Partly because:. I think it would be quite spectacular to have this URL printed out on business cards to whip out super-fast ninja-style when someone asks the question. Definitely a different list than 10 years ago. And I have no doubt that as time goes on, it will continue to evolve still. Ok, ok, you all know me. You know, The List.
For me, they began back in the days of M. H anyone? To which a group of our guy friends responded with a list of their own — see above. And then…I got really annoyed with these kind of lists.
Still probably am. Well, with the exception of Tim Riggins. But to be honest, my wish list for a guy is now much shorter than it used to be. Like, naturally kind. They are the guys who genuinely want to know how you are doing. They are the guys who lend a hand or give to help someone without thinking twice. Alternative title for this one? But being able to look each other in the eye and talk about the big, the small, the serious, the funny, the difficult, the exciting, the hopeful things about life?
Basically, I consider myself a Christian, and would love to find a guy who says the same. And to each, his or her own. Someone who gets that life is not always black and white, but who believes that there is a purpose and hope and Creator behind it all. Someone who prays, someone who is a part of a community seeking to follow Christ, and someone who humbly wants to learn and serve Him.
Especially those who have really wrestled with faith and have come out still wrestling but worshipping. And big bonus if he lives in KC and can come to my church, which is just about my favorite place on earth. Heck yes! Sure, it can grow the more you get to know someone, but there has to be at least something there to start with. And after being single this long, I damn well hope that I find a guy who makes my heart beat a little faster when I see him.
Yep, was always drawn to the basketball players. I know. I feel like it should also be noted that as I get older, I tend to find more guys attractive whom I might not have considered years ago. But the fact still remains that some guys are more attractive to me, and others are more attractive to others.
It all somehow seems to miraculously balance out in the world. Ok, this one may sound weird. But I kind of hope that I find someone who has been through something difficult in life.
Not that I wish that on anyone, but I feel that things like heartbreak, loss, pain, injury, grief, and disappointment have this way of shaping us like nothing else in life. And — in a weird way, I would love to meet someone who has been through that. I told you I was way too realistic for my own good.
But I would prefer to date and marry someone who has been there at least once before. The older I get, the more I really want to make traveling and seeing the world a priority in my life. I know that different seasons bring opportunities for travel, and Disney World or a trip to visit the grandparents might be the most realistic option when you have young kids.
I guess we will see. But I guess the good news is that I at least like this list much better than the one I had a decade ago.
So for all inquiring minds, I hope you enjoy it. And please know that this is NOT a call for you to go emailing this post to any and all single men you know. Your email address will not be published. Recipe Rating. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Totally thought I was reading my biography!!! A good friend once told me the only thing on my list should be someone who treats me right, everything else is negotiable.
Thanks for sharing Ali! But I have way fewer non-negotiables now than I did when I was 21! Ali, I loved reading your list! Oh, and for the record…it took me exactly 3 dates after a completely blind first date to be able to check off every single thing on my list :.
Thank you, God!! It pays to hold out for everything on your list! So sweet! I got, not a perfect man, but the perfect man for me! What a fantastic list! I had a pre-John list similar to yours, with character things as well as a few appearance notes please be handsome and healthy, please please please. I so hope and pray this list is satisfied for you! Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing. Such a great thing to share with other women who are also seeking relationships.
So glad yerrrr my friend! I had a conversation with a friend about this very issue just this evening. I think this is a very realistic list of desires. Your list is actually quite similar to mine. Definitely not all of the same interests, but the ability to find enjoyment out of the same things. I remember thinking of these lists all the time.
My favorite three:. He enjoys a lot of down time, but is an amazingly efficient problem solver and a little bit of a hustler when something needs to be accomplished. Hey Alison, so vulnerable of you to put this out there. I know lots of guys adore you : Keep in mind no one is perfect. Emotional stability and mental health are huge. But all in all it is a leap of faith!! Vulnerability and acceptance is huge!! Not feeling I have to impress the guy with wit or energy. Girl… I think your list is awesome.
I also think your comments on him being a Christian were very well written and something that has made all the difference in our marriage we are both Christians, in the way that you described.
Great post! Your list is thoughtful, considerate and realistic and I like to think mine is much the same. Kindess goes a long way. For me, a big must-have is a lover of animals! I love my dog and seeing a guy who loves animals or owns animals is a massive attraction for me.
Seriously, this is a brilliant post. Compromising does not always equal, lowering your standards. Sommer — So true!
Because no joke , I really do have a man for her!!! He does love to travel, maybe he would move??? Anywhoooo…thanks for this awesome post! Hi, Ali! And yet, His plan is perfect. Looking forward to reading some of your other posts! Please forgive the last comment.
You can delete! I accidentally only pasted in part of it. Was trying to say how much I liked that section, but I only pasted your quote! I love how you explained 3.
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This post may contain affiliate links. Please read my disclosure policy. Partly because:. I think it would be quite spectacular to have this URL printed out on business cards to whip out super-fast ninja-style when someone asks the question. Definitely a different list than 10 years ago.
50 Things Men Are Afraid to Ask for (but Really Want Super-Duper Badly)
There are certain traits that the majority of heterosexual women look for in a man: kindness, GSOH, an understanding that the fight for gender equality is very much still ongoing. But other aspects of your personality could be a deal-breaker for one woman and simultaneously the reason another falls in love with you. With the advent of dating apps meaning another love interest is never more than a right swipe away, it can be hard to commit. So if you're wondering whether to settle down with your current partner, it might be worth taking a step back and asking yourself whether he ticks the boxes below. While some of us are naturally brainier than others, a new study from the Hanken School of Economics in Finland suggests that the smarter the man, the less likely he is to be unfaithful. According to the research, more intelligent men are more likely to get married and stay married. Even when the women in the study described their husbands as supportive, they also revealed that the men refused to change their own work schedules or offer to help more with looking after children. In fact, a recent study found that young men get more satisfaction out of their bromances than their romantic relationships with women. While this is clearly ludicrous, maintaining your friendships is important.
10 Things A Woman Should Look For In A Man
We found 50 guys to spill what men want most—even the stuff most don't have the guts to say out loud. Warning: We must have found the most honest guys in the universe. We asked—and, wow, did they open up the vault: the good, the bad and the OMG, did he just get in a time machine to ? I don't always want to be the one in control; let me guess and joke around a little, too.
Dating can be completely frustrating to begin with, but it's even harder when you don't know what you're looking for. Worse is when you have the slightest idea of what you want, but you feel too guilty asking for it. In a recent Bustle survey, almost 20 percent of participants who said they're single and dating said their biggest dating goal is to figure out exactly what it is they're looking for in a partner — but that's often easier said than done.
How To Figure Out What You Want In A Partner — And Feel Confident Asking For It
I hate consumerism as much as the next man. This guide was intended to help you discover things you might be missing out on. Nothing more, nothing less. Sure, I could have listed 1, things every man should own, but you get the idea.
Is he just being friendly? Is he flirting? Is he interested? What are men actually looking for in a woman they want to date? The real answer has to dive deeper, into what men are actually looking for in a long-term partner and short-term too! And all that leads back to the central question: what do men really want?
10 of the Most Important Qualities Women Look for in a Guy
Some women treat finding the perfect guy like planning a wedding. Just make sure you only include the right things. Sparkling personality. Do you want him to make you laugh? Should he be more serious? Think about general personality traits that really make you happy. How much time he has on his hands.
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